If there is a problem with your dishwasher/cat’s teeth/etc., it probably won’t “just go away on its own” (unfortunately).
If an electric outlet isn’t working, check if there’s a light switch that needs to be flipped on BEFORE you call an electrician. They’ll charge you for making the trip out there.
Some really popular things (Harry Potter, Rihanna) are popular for a reason. Avoiding them because they’re popular or because of a preconceived judgment is silly. Why not try ’em?
Conversely, trying to work up excitement about something everyone else likes and you don’t is a waste of energy. It’s OK to disagree. You’re entitled to your own tastes and preferences, as long as you aren’t an asshole.
Buying something you don’t love because it’s on sale is almost always a bad idea.
Get a mattress protector. Periods happen. Absolutely no one wants a stained mattress when you move/get a new one.
Speaking of, memory foam is cushy but HOT. Avoid.
If you anxiously call a tow truck, make sure you get an ETA. Hearing they’ll be there “soon” but not knowing how soon “soon” is will only make you more anxious.
If you’re about to get a massage and the masseuse is like “I’m so sick of calming ocean sounds. OK if I put on something a little more upbeat?” but you kind of want soothing ocean sounds, you can politely disagree/try to come to a compromise. It’s your massage!
Kittens are a LOT of work (and will cost you sleep). Apparently this is also true of human children???????
Always get a paint sample before you paint a room. Otherwise sunny yellow will turn out to be nacho cheese.
You can’t expect to do anything perfectly (or even well) the first time (or the first few times). Failure is normal and should be celebrated–it means you’re trying, which is more than a lot of people can say!
Asking someone, “What do you mean?” or “Can you clarify?” will save you hours, whether it’s hours of anguish from misunderstanding, or doing something that wasn’t what they wanted. Asking those questions doesn’t mean you’re stupid or a bad listener. It means you have different ways of communicating, or they were vague, or they’re just a bad communicator.
If you walk into an office for a job interview and it’s very 1980s, and you can tell that working there will be like smooshing your funky circle self into a square hole, no amount of money/awesome benefits is worth it. You will be miserable.
I read about Bones (aka Bones UK) in a post about female-led bands on Oh No They Didn’t, and they’re AWESOME in an angry dirty badass way! Same vein as Garbage, although darker. Perfect for kicking down doors, real or metaphorical:
If Schoolhouse Rock dropped out of school and discovered heavy eyeliner:
Slightly NSFW at the beginning (song starts around 1:19):
I’ll give ’em my bones when their debut album comes out!! GET IT BONES LIKE MUNNY yeah pretty bad i know k bye
Being out in the entertainment industry, especially as a woman, is tricky. On the one hand, I believe artists have a responsibility to be open, because their silence perpetuates assumed heteronormativity. Queer visibility is vital and saves many lives. On the other hand, I understand that some artists would rather keep their personal lives to themselves. As for me, being publicly out has been the most rewarding experience of my life.
I did something big (to me) today. I DELETED MY PINTEREST. Hey-o! (I know. In the grand scheme, it’s…somewhat less important than Russian meddling in the 2016 election, but anyway.)
My Pinterest served two purposes: cataloging all the shit I wanted to buy, and collecting inspirational interior design photos/badass quotes. I’m trying to work on my shopaholic tendencies, and Pinterest directly contributes to them. So I took the plunge.
But HELP! What do I spend my paycheck on if not clothes I don’t need, books I still haven’t read, and other random trinkets I’ll just have to Marie Kondo later? Experiences, it turns out:
Recent research from San Francisco State University found that people who spent money on experiences rather than material items were happier and felt the money was better spent. The thrill of purchasing things fades quickly but the joy and memories of experiences, from epic adventures to minute encounters, can last a lifetime.
This is helpful yet vague, so I made Ye Olde List of 20 Experiences To Spend Mah Munny On Instead of Stuff. In no particular order:
cup of tea/glass of wine at neighborhood spot
a museum visit
a night or two at the coast
a drag show
a good haircut
lunch at food carts if I’m at work
afternoon coffee/tea with coworkers
dinner/drinks with friends
a painting or improv class
having people over for drinks/dessert/board games
a donation to an LGBTQ group, Planned Parenthood, NARAL, etc.
a retreat somewhere
yoga class or personal trainer
I realize that, except for #17, this is still spending money on ME and potentially JUST as self-indulgent as buying actual stuff. And who knows if I’ll be able to quit buying fun scented candles and whatnot cold turkey. (Does a tattoo count as a thing?) Baby steps…