I read about Bones (aka Bones UK) in a post about female-led bands on Oh No They Didn’t, and they’re AWESOME in an angry dirty badass way! Same vein as Garbage, although darker. Perfect for kicking down doors, real or metaphorical:
If Schoolhouse Rock dropped out of school and discovered heavy eyeliner:
Slightly NSFW at the beginning (song starts around 1:19):
I’ll give ’em my bones when their debut album comes out!! GET IT BONES LIKE MUNNY yeah pretty bad i know k bye
Being out in the entertainment industry, especially as a woman, is tricky. On the one hand, I believe artists have a responsibility to be open, because their silence perpetuates assumed heteronormativity. Queer visibility is vital and saves many lives. On the other hand, I understand that some artists would rather keep their personal lives to themselves. As for me, being publicly out has been the most rewarding experience of my life.
I did something big (to me) today. I DELETED MY PINTEREST. Hey-o! (I know. In the grand scheme, it’s…somewhat less important than Russian meddling in the 2016 election, but anyway.)
My Pinterest served two purposes: cataloging all the shit I wanted to buy, and collecting inspirational interior design photos/badass quotes. I’m trying to work on my shopaholic tendencies, and Pinterest directly contributes to them. So I took the plunge.
But HELP! What do I spend my paycheck on if not clothes I don’t need, books I still haven’t read, and other random trinkets I’ll just have to Marie Kondo later? Experiences, it turns out:
Recent research from San Francisco State University found that people who spent money on experiences rather than material items were happier and felt the money was better spent. The thrill of purchasing things fades quickly but the joy and memories of experiences, from epic adventures to minute encounters, can last a lifetime.
This is helpful yet vague, so I made Ye Olde List of 20 Experiences To Spend Mah Munny On Instead of Stuff. In no particular order:
cup of tea/glass of wine at neighborhood spot
a museum visit
a night or two at the coast
a drag show
a good haircut
lunch at food carts if I’m at work
afternoon coffee/tea with coworkers
dinner/drinks with friends
a painting or improv class
having people over for drinks/dessert/board games
a donation to an LGBTQ group, Planned Parenthood, NARAL, etc.
a retreat somewhere
yoga class or personal trainer
I realize that, except for #17, this is still spending money on ME and potentially JUST as self-indulgent as buying actual stuff. And who knows if I’ll be able to quit buying fun scented candles and whatnot cold turkey. (Does a tattoo count as a thing?) Baby steps…