you’ve got to feel it in your bones

I read about Bones (aka Bones UK) in a post about female-led bands on Oh No They Didn’t, and they’re AWESOME in an angry dirty badass way! Same vein as Garbage, although darker. Perfect for kicking down doors, real or metaphorical:

If Schoolhouse Rock dropped out of school and discovered heavy eyeliner:

Slightly NSFW at the beginning (song starts around 1:19):

I’ll give ’em my bones when their debut album comes out!! GET IT BONES LIKE MUNNY yeah pretty bad i know k bye


zolita – fight like a girl

Being out in the entertainment industry, especially as a woman, is tricky. On the one hand, I believe artists have a responsibility to be open, because their silence perpetuates assumed heteronormativity. Queer visibility is vital and saves many lives. On the other hand, I understand that some artists would rather keep their personal lives to themselves. As for me, being publicly out has been the most rewarding experience of my life.

lesbian feminist musician Zolita

(and another good interview)

what a colonoscopy is like, in Mean Girls gifs

when you can’t eat certain foods for a week beforehand

learning popcorn is one of those things

the day before when u can only have clear liquids

when u see someone with food

when yr starving and slightly delirious from all the gatorade

the night before when u have to drink a ton of gross bowel prep liquid

spending hours in the bathroom

when you realize you have to wake up at 4am to drink MORE prep liquid

running to the bathroom

when it’s finally time for the colonoscopy

once they turn on the anesthesia

when u wake up and realize it’s over

afterwards, when u should prolly eat something healthy

being able to eat berries, nuts, and popcorn again


20 experiences to buy instead of things

goodnight, sweet prince

I did something big (to me) today. I DELETED MY PINTEREST. Hey-o! (I know. In the grand scheme, it’s…somewhat less important than Russian meddling in the 2016 election, but anyway.)

My Pinterest served two purposes: cataloging all the shit I wanted to buy, and collecting inspirational interior design photos/badass quotes. I’m trying to work on my shopaholic tendencies, and Pinterest directly contributes to them. So I took the plunge.

But HELP! What do I spend my paycheck on if not clothes I don’t need, books I still haven’t read, and other random trinkets I’ll just have to Marie Kondo later? Experiences, it turns out:

Recent research from San Francisco State University found that people who spent money on experiences rather than material items were happier and felt the money was better spent. The thrill of purchasing things fades quickly but the joy and memories of experiences, from epic adventures to minute encounters, can last a lifetime. 

This is helpful yet vague, so I made Ye Olde List of 20 Experiences To Spend Mah Munny On Instead of Stuff. In no particular order:

  1. a massage
  2. cup of tea/glass of wine at neighborhood spot
  3. a pedicure
  4. a concert
  5. a museum visit
  6. a night or two at the coast
  7. a play
  8. a drag show
  9. weekend brunch
  10. a good haircut
  11. lunch at food carts if I’m at work
  12. afternoon coffee/tea with coworkers
  13. dinner/drinks with friends
  14. roller derby
  15. a painting or improv class
  16. having people over for drinks/dessert/board games
  17. a donation to an LGBTQ group, Planned Parenthood, NARAL, etc.
  18. a retreat somewhere
  19. yoga class or personal trainer
  20. travel

I realize that, except for #17, this is still spending money on ME and potentially JUST as self-indulgent as buying actual stuff. And who knows if I’ll be able to quit buying fun scented candles and whatnot cold turkey. (Does a tattoo count as a thing?) Baby steps…

journal #9

we all scream for hayley kiyoko amirite

been listening to a lot of ’90s hip hop & binge-watching Living Single (highly recommend)