20 experiences to buy instead of things

goodnight, sweet prince

I did something big (to me) today. I DELETED MY PINTEREST. Hey-o! (I know. In the grand scheme, it’s…somewhat less important than Russian meddling in the 2016 election, but anyway.)

My Pinterest served two purposes: cataloging all the shit I wanted to buy, and collecting inspirational interior design photos/badass quotes. I’m trying to work on my shopaholic tendencies, and Pinterest directly contributes to them. So I took the plunge.

But HELP! What do I spend my paycheck on if not clothes I don’t need, books I still haven’t read, and other random trinkets I’ll just have to Marie Kondo later? Experiences, it turns out:

Recent research from San Francisco State University found that people who spent money on experiences rather than material items were happier and felt the money was better spent. The thrill of purchasing things fades quickly but the joy and memories of experiences, from epic adventures to minute encounters, can last a lifetime. 

This is helpful yet vague, so I made Ye Olde List of 20 Experiences To Spend Mah Munny On Instead of Stuff. In no particular order:

  1. a massage
  2. cup of tea/glass of wine at neighborhood spot
  3. a pedicure
  4. a concert
  5. a museum visit
  6. a night or two at the coast
  7. a play
  8. a drag show
  9. weekend brunch
  10. a good haircut
  11. lunch at food carts if I’m at work
  12. afternoon coffee/tea with coworkers
  13. dinner/drinks with friends
  14. roller derby
  15. a painting or improv class
  16. having people over for drinks/dessert/board games
  17. a donation to an LGBTQ group, Planned Parenthood, NARAL, etc.
  18. a retreat somewhere
  19. yoga class or personal trainer
  20. travel

I realize that, except for #17, this is still spending money on ME and potentially JUST as self-indulgent as buying actual stuff. And who knows if I’ll be able to quit buying fun scented candles and whatnot cold turkey. (Does a tattoo count as a thing?) Baby steps…



  1. Nice list!

    One thing that’s cool about giving yourself a course in something you’re curious about is that you never know what will open up to you. And there is nothing wrong with giving non-stuff to yourself, because if it makes you feel good, if you enjoy it, then you are better off for it. But it’s also cool that you are thinking of some giving to others as well, things you really care about.

    As for a tattoo, consider it an investment in art. 🙂

  2. love this!!i do like nice things for my home (useful or beautiful), but ultimately prefer experiences :)loves,lanettey “in our life there is a single color.  it is the color of love.” –marc chagall

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