quote of the day: “strong female leads”

I have mixed feelings on the phrase “strong women.” Years ago, a women told me, “Most of my friends are…[pause]…strong women.” It came off slightly condescending, insulting, and confusing. Was she saying most women AREN’T strong? Was she using “strong” as a euphemism for “loud,” “difficult,” and/or “opinionated”? (Which women should be allowed to be,Continue reading “quote of the day: “strong female leads””

dispatches from the end of the world

hello! are you still alive? good job! it’s a weird time to be alive. emails about coronavirus are annoying. emails that aren’t about coronavirus seem tone-deaf. we got an inch of snow yesterday, in March. THE WORLD IS ENDING! everything is fine! i go back and forth several times an hour. words, as always, areContinue reading “dispatches from the end of the world”

out of the depths

The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do notContinue reading “out of the depths”

Which Golden Girl are you? An existential crisis

I am a Rose. Always have been, probably always will be. But I’ve spent most of my life trying to be the other ones. Sure, Rose is sweet. But she’s the one you make fun of for being so innocent and optimistic and ditzy. Dorothy is the cool one. Dorothy is the equivalent of beingContinue reading “Which Golden Girl are you? An existential crisis”

Why people choose chaos over love

It is harder for many people to allow love to pierce their heart than to have chaotic, painful relationships…When I was an adolescent, a very dear young man named Eddie pursued me. I liked him, I enjoyed being with him, and one day I just froze up and couldn’t talk to him. Many years laterContinue reading “Why people choose chaos over love”

who i have a crush on

People who thank the bus driver. People who tip extra. People who let people with one or two items go ahead in the grocery store line. People who help empty the dishwasher at work even though it’s not “their job.” People who pick up litter. People who flatten their cardboard boxes before recycling them. PeopleContinue reading “who i have a crush on”

top 15 songs of 2018

These songs didn’t necessarily come out in 2018, but they were on heavy rotation for me this year! Enjoy! Bonus: They’re all by or featuring women. (Sorry not sorry at all, cishet white guys.) In no particular order…

there’s nothing wrong with you

My therapist told me that today. Not in a “We’re done here; you’ve evolved and are perfect, TRUMPET NOISE!!!!1” way (snort). In a “You go through life thinking you’re bad and wrong and messed up and THAT’S why people are shitty and that’s not true” way. There’s nothing wrong with me. Or you. WHAT A REVOLUTIONARYContinue reading “there’s nothing wrong with you”