who i have a crush on

People who thank the bus driver. People who tip extra. People who let people with one or two items go ahead in the grocery store line. People who help empty the dishwasher at work even though it’s not “their job.” People who pick up litter. People who flatten their cardboard boxes before recycling them. People […]

there’s nothing wrong with you

My therapist told me that today. Not in a “We’re done here; you’ve evolved and are perfect, TRUMPET NOISE!!!!1” way (snort). In a “You go through life thinking you’re bad and wrong and messed up and THAT’S why people are shitty and that’s not true” way. There’s nothing wrong with me. Or you. WHAT A REVOLUTIONARY […]

breakup town: how to date someone avoidant

tl;dr You can’t. They won’t let you. You’ll try to get close & it’ll feel like banging your head against a wall. This reinforces your beliefs of inadequacy. THOSE ARE A LIE. YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH JUST AS YOU ARE. RUN.

wtf is hygge?

Hygge is so trendy that it’s almost obnoxious, but recently on three (!) occasions, I found myself struggling to explain it to people who hadn’t heard of it (probably because they do more with their lives than read Apartment Therapy). Anyway, the Danish concept of “hygge” (which I guess you say HUE-geh or HOO-guh depending […]

Where my basic bitchez at?

Confession: I am listening to Dolly Parton and reading a Harlequin romance novel about a librarian titled Love Overdue. WHAT THE FUCK (Yes, moooost of my blog post ideas of late are just retreads of the same theme: “OMG I just realized I can stop hating XYZ and repressing myself and just like what I […]

not it

Most “websites for women” (EYEROLL) are full of headlines like this: Or this: The “it” girl species (Homo itgirlius) is always well-dressed, always on the cutting edge. Fashionable, flawlessly made up, “effortlessly” dressed, minimalist rose gold jewelry, blond-streaked hair gently tousled or piled in a bun on top of her head. (Her Instagram is amazing.) […]