Why people choose chaos over love

It is harder for many people to allow love to pierce their heart than to have chaotic, painful relationships…When I was an adolescent, a very dear young man named Eddie pursued me. I liked him, I enjoyed being with him, and one day I just froze up and couldn’t talk to him. Many years later […]

who i have a crush on

People who thank the bus driver. People who tip extra. People who let people with one or two items go ahead in the grocery store line. People who help empty the dishwasher at work even though it’s not “their job.” People who pick up litter. People who flatten their cardboard boxes before recycling them. People […]

there’s nothing wrong with you

My therapist told me that today. Not in a “We’re done here; you’ve evolved and are perfect, TRUMPET NOISE!!!!1” way (snort). In a “You go through life thinking you’re bad and wrong and messed up and THAT’S why people are shitty and that’s not true” way. There’s nothing wrong with me. Or you. WHAT A REVOLUTIONARY […]

breakup town: how to date someone avoidant

tl;dr You can’t. They won’t let you. You’ll try to get close & it’ll feel like banging your head against a wall. This reinforces your beliefs of inadequacy. THOSE ARE A LIE. YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH JUST AS YOU ARE. RUN.

Pitch Perfect and attachment theory

I love Pitch Perfect. It has plenty of problems with race. But it also has a cast full of talented, awesome women (Rebel Wilson, pre-Super Fun Night…those were the days), a female writer, and a female producer. And Beca (Anna Kendrick), its main character, has a really refreshing take on relationships. Let’s back up. Have you read […]