Which Golden Girl are you? An existential crisis

I am a Rose. Always have been, probably always will be. But I’ve spent most of my life trying to be the other ones. Sure, Rose is sweet. But she’s the one you make fun of for being so innocent and optimistic and ditzy. Dorothy is the cool one. Dorothy is the equivalent of being […]

there’s nothing wrong with you

My therapist told me that today. Not in a “We’re done here; you’ve evolved and are perfect, TRUMPET NOISE!!!!1” way (snort). In a “You go through life thinking you’re bad and wrong and messed up and THAT’S why people are shitty and that’s not true” way. There’s nothing wrong with me. Or you. WHAT A REVOLUTIONARY […]

an email newsletter that feels like a hug

I’ve unsubscribed from a lot of e-newsletters in my day [leans back in rocking chair; puffs smoke from old-timey pipe] but Courtney Carver’s is one that always makes me feel better about life. She runs a blog (and wrote a book) called Be More With Less, which is ostensibly about simplifying and decluttering but IS […]

wtf is hygge?

Hygge is so trendy that it’s almost obnoxious, but recently on three (!) occasions, I found myself struggling to explain it to people who hadn’t heard of it (probably because they do more with their lives than read Apartment Therapy). Anyway, the Danish concept of “hygge” (which I guess you say HUE-geh or HOO-guh depending […]

Where my basic bitchez at?

Confession: I am listening to Dolly Parton and reading a Harlequin romance novel about a librarian titled Love Overdue. WHAT THE FUCK (Yes, moooost of my blog post ideas of late are just retreads of the same theme: “OMG I just realized I can stop hating XYZ and repressing myself and just like what I […]

Pitch Perfect and attachment theory

I love Pitch Perfect. It has plenty of problems with race. But it also has a cast full of talented, awesome women (Rebel Wilson, pre-Super Fun Night…those were the days), a female writer, and a female producer. And Beca (Anna Kendrick), its main character, has a really refreshing take on relationships. Let’s back up. Have you read […]