Annual gun deaths in Japan: <10. America: 33,000

This is mind-blowing:

America’s gun homicide rate is 25 TIMES HIGHER than other developed countries.

Really pissed Trump is blaming the latest school shooting on mental health without even acknowledging access to guns is way too easy. ONLY 4-6% of people who commit criminal gun violence are mentally ill. Thanks for adding to mental health stigma, Tr*mp.

Stuff you can do:


spring 2018 boho vibez

Feeling very pastel-pink-yellow-blue, California, soft flowy hippie, vintage florals ‘n’ daisies, faded embroidered jeans with a flowy white top:

kinda the opposite of rock ‘n’ roll joan jett dark edgy shit.

Inspired by the Washington Post’s In/Out list, here’s mine, which boils down to “out with trying so hard to be a badass; in with being a softy”:

Out with… In with…
Irish coffee Green tea with honey and lemon
Hot pink hair Bleached blonde
Black lace-up jeans Faded embroidered mom jeans
Ankle boots Clogs and mary janes
Snarling and glowering Naps and hugs
Resentment Vulnerability

(I mean, who wouldn’t want their seasonal style aesthetic to be “weeping openly in a coffeeshop”?!)

Wut’s yer 2018 style vibe?

Obsessed with: Supergirl’s apartment

I started watching Supergirl because the #Supercorp ship…ment (shipment? ship?) crossed my Tumblr dashboard [yes I realize I sound 14, which is fine cuz that’s how old I am inside anyway], so the show seemed to have delightful lesbian subtext. Halfway through the first season, I have yet to see anything gay, but I HAVE fallen in love with Supergirl’s apartment.

(warner bros. via kansas city star)

I read an article saying the show is basically millennial wish-fulfillment, and at least in terms of her apartment, it’s true–despite working as a measly assistant, Kara has a huge, breezy loft with exposed brick and floor-to-almost-ceiling windows framed by flowing white curtains:


The overall vibe is kinda shabby-chic, eclectic, Anthropologie store, with a mint-and-cream color palette. Lots of white pillar candles. Some green paisley (decidedly unhip but consistent with the superhero’s sweet temperament).


Somehow it’s large and airy yet cozy, industrial yet soft. There’s a splash of retro too, with a rotary phone and typewriter, but nothing too hipster. Very friendly and accessible, not cooler-than-thou. There’s kind of a flea market/thrift store/cottage vibe? A little bit farmhouse, a little bit “I went to Mumbai in college.” (Maybe more World Market than Anthro? Just spitballing here.)

(Robert Chan/Yahoo TV via Tumblr)

Often when I’m watching I get distracted by scoping out her apartment and ignore the actual, you know, plot. I think it’s soothing because it touches on a recurring theme/lesson I’m trying to learn: It feels really good to worry less what other people think. I mean, I’d NEVER be caught dead with paisley in my place…but maybe I should give it a whirl! Some of the places I’ve felt most comfortable have been dated and un-trendy. They feel HONEST. It’s like the room/building let its guard down, so I can too. If there’s anywhere in the world you should be able to let down your defenses, it’s your home, right? Maybe that’s a good goal for 2018: embrace the unhip! (Or just…more soft lighting.)

34 fave things from my 34th year

I mean if Oprah can do it, right?!

forgive my use of Paint. i don’t have Photoshop anymore


  1. the Kaylor fandom on Tumblr
  2. Floss Gloss nail polish (my nails currently look like a disco ball thanks to Mo)
  3. Women Who Love Too Much. life. changing.
  4. the Headspace app. started meditating this spring and digging it.
  5. the Shakespeare room at the Sylvia Beach Hotel
  6. seeing Tove Lo with Jake
  7. GLOW on netflix
  8. seeing Radiohead live for the first time
  9. a trip to Sante Fe (sisser + SUN!)
  10. getting a cat tattoo (how it took me this long i don’t know)
  11. going to Cape Disappointment after getting dumped #friendship
  12. karaoke. cure for what ails ya
  13. a one-night improv class
  14. soaking. pools. (aka drinking in a ginormous hot tub)
  15. Shakespeare in the Park
  16. an escape room
  17. an eclipse wedding
  18. bath bombs
  19. a girls’ escape here and a “secret” passageway
  20. a murder mystery party
  21. pusheen
  22. rainbow everything
  23. Cougar Town
  24. Stash mango passionfruit tea
  25. “Create a life that feels good on the inside, not one that just looks good on the outside.”
  26. “Do no harm but take no shit.”
  28. my boo ❤
  29. comfy comfy pink danskos
  30. stars hearts sprinkles and watermelons
  31. Cupcakke
  32. ethical/fair trade fashion via kell
  33. darling distraction
  34. my pink artificial christmas tree

happy hollydays to youuuuu!

creating + relationships > “success”

“Success” as we think of it will not make you happy. Well, maybe it will, but only for a fleeting moment. It’s great to have dreams, ambition & a goal—but what I’ve realized is that you often miss out on life & real living when you’re too focused on one particular thing. The beauty is in the process of the thing you’re creating, whatever that may be. Don’t forget to connect with friends, family, community, nature & yourself / your inner world—that’s where the real magic is! Slow down.

–electronic musician Kelly Lee Owens (via)

Black Friday: a great time to unsubscribe from everything

Nothing brings advertisers outta the woodwork like Black Friday/Cyber Monday. “Oh yeah, I bought one thing from that one company 11 months ago,” I realize, promptly tossing their postcard in my recycling. If only there was an “unsubscribe” link on catalogs, right dawg?

IS THERE A BETTER WAY? You bet your sweet pumpkin-cheesecake-lovin’ booty there is!

When I get paper junk mail (you know, in the ole mailbox from days of yore), I’ve gotten in the habit of googling “email [company name]” to find a contact form/address, then sending them this li’l template baby:

Hello there!
Please remove me from your marketing/catalog lists. I’d appreciate it very much! Here’s my info:
Thank you so much!

I leave ’em as email drafts so they’re ready to copy-and-paste anytime.
And yesterday I realized I can proactively do this as soon as I buy something online! I don’t have to wait for their annoying (plus, tree-killing or whatever) mail! So I scribbled up this template too:

Hi! I just made a purchase with you (and I’m excited to get it)!
I’m trying to cut down on the paper mail I receive, so just in case you were going to add me to a physical mailing list (for catalogs or something), I would love it if you would remove me:
I really appreciate it! Thank you so much!

Please take and customize to your heart’s content (obviously, you may be less into exclamation points than I am).
Happy Thanksgiving (almost)!