Why people choose chaos over love

It is harder for many people to allow love to pierce their heart than to have chaotic, painful relationships…When I was an adolescent, a very dear young man named Eddie pursued me. I liked him, I enjoyed being with him, and one day I just froze up and couldn’t talk to him. Many years later I came to understand that I feared his love would penetrate my heart and open up a torrent of buried heartaches and pain. It was less threatening to date people who emotionally starved me.

from If the Buddha Dated by Charlotte Kasl

yayoi kusama on loving your art

I’m a big fan of love, and being in love, but one of my all-time fave quotes is about pouring yourself into your art, not someone else.

The gorgeous Lula Magazine asked avant-garde artist Yayoi Kusama if she’d ever been in love. This was her reply:

Looking back on some 40 years, I realize that I have been totally occupied with making my artworks that I simply did not have time to be in love. I am in love with my works.

Here’s another good quote of hers from elsewhere:

I fight pain, anxiety, and fear every day, and the only method I have found that relieves my illness is to keep creating art.