It is harder for many people to allow love to pierce their heart than to have chaotic, painful relationships…When I was an adolescent, a very dear young man named Eddie pursued me. I liked him, I enjoyed being with him, and one day I just froze up and couldn’t talk to him. Many years later I came to understand that I feared his love would penetrate my heart and open up a torrent of buried heartaches and pain. It was less threatening to date people who emotionally starved me.
from If the Buddha Dated by Charlotte Kasl
I’m a big fan of love, and being in love, but one of my all-time fave quotes is about pouring yourself into your art, not someone else.
The gorgeous Lula Magazine asked avant-garde artist Yayoi Kusama if she’d ever been in love. This was her reply:
Looking back on some 40 years, I realize that I have been totally occupied with making my artworks that I simply did not have time to be in love. I am in love with my works.
Here’s another good quote of hers from elsewhere:
I fight pain, anxiety, and fear every day, and the only method I have found that relieves my illness is to keep creating art.